Often people ask me this question -Tonja, how do you stop someone from taking advantage of you and taking your hard earned wealth?
My answer isn’t often met with great enthusiasm because I believe that NOBODY can take what rightfully belongs to you. I am a firm believer that what is meant for you is yours and you do not need to “fight” to protect it.
I believe that if you surrender to the process, circumstances may appear that you wish didn’t but they are there for your benefit.
The problem is believing that pain can be for your benefit, that is where trust is essential. When you trust the Universe to deliver what is meant for you, you trust that it is for the best regardless of how it feels in the moment.
The moment may simply be meant for you to grow, to learn, to understand, to prepare or any other variety of reasons.
In my book Twist & Trust (by Tonja Demoff), I discuss this in depth.
Surrender doesn’t mean sit back and do nothing, it means to allow the process to unfold, do what you feel is the right thing without allowing your ego mind to take over. Go within your heart and your soul and seek the right action. Right Action is the action that will serve the greater good, create a situation for the highest and best solution for everyone. Then allow the Universe to take over, to set in motion what is to be.
An example from my life is:
I was involved in a law suit that ended very badly for me and quite frankly no better for the plaintiff. Each of us was economically harmed in many ways and neither has anything to show for the years of battle. I approached the plaintiff and extended my had to take the experience and use it in a positive way to help others understand how such a thing could happen from to people who were once friends, business partners and investors together.
The person declined the offer.
It did require her to go on video and answer some questions , be open, genuine and share her frustrations, anger etc… in a format that would give others information that would help them avoid what we had experienced.
Instead she prefers to paint me in an extreme and outrageous negative light across social media. Her jealousy, bitterness, anger and hatred is something that is in my experience. How I choose to deal with it is what shapes my experiences and what I learn from the situation is what shapes my character. That isn’t to say that it hasn’t hurt me, angered me, frustrated me etc… because it has. The point is that it has made me a stronger person, a person of more character, allowed me to be more vulnerable because it showed me humility in many “offshoots” of the situation if you will. I am more than I was when it started and I’ll be more than I was when it ends- what I learned is that I was always “more than I thought”… I just had to grow into it.
NOBODY can take what belongs to you… their attempt is your blessing!